Query: My husband likes wearing my lingerie. I saw him once secretly trying on my lingerie sets and it shocked me way too much. What am I supposed to do in this situation?
Expert advice by Shivani Misri Sadhoo, Psychologist and Relationship Expert, Founder Director Saarthi Counselling Services: Discovering that your husband enjoys wearing your lingerie can truly be shocking and may raise doubts about your relationship dynamics and personal boundaries. However, before you bombard them with your questions, try to know the reasons behind such as an act. You need to understand that certain individuals have fetishes, and fetish is something that may vary from a person to person. You need to see if they have any kind of fetish and if the answer is yes, you need check what makes them to have such a fetish, it might also, be a part of their deep-rooted fantasy as well.
Approach the conversation having a mindset of seeking understanding rather than judgment. Give your husband some space to share his views, feelings, and motivations behind his desire to wear lingerie. It is quite important to approach the conversation having empathy and compassion, recognizing that personal preferences and desires can be complex. If you feel that it hampers your boundaries then, discuss, your personal boundaries and the impact it has on your comfort level within the relationship. Look for potential resolution that respect both your feelings and his desires, finding a middle ground where both of you can feel validated and understood.
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